Wish I'd read your reply before I posted my last one, we are obviously on
the same page!
Enjoy every day ahead of you, Jess! It's great in so many ways!!

On 6/28/09, Jess in CA wrote:
> (((((Meg))))), your best recourse is to do nothing but understand that
> some people are doofuses, and your principal is one. He apparently
> doesn't have any of the social graces that would have meant
> acknowledging you at the assembly. He probably has no clue that he was
> rude. Some people just don't "get it" even if you explain it to them
> with audio- visual input and assistive technology! Remember, he had no
> clue he embarrassed a colleague in front of others, so you can bet
> that he'll be gauche and clueless for the remainder of his days.
>
> My principal AND the 3 assistant principals didn't even give me so much
> as an email to congratulate me on my retirement--after 36 years--
when
> my last TWENTY-ONE YEARS were spent at that school. Oh well. Too bad
> they have to work and I'm retired!!! However, it did make me pause and
> say a puzzled "hmmmmmm" to myself.
>
> As for the social committee, I applaud you for making sure leaving
> staff were treated equally and with love and respect. Perhaps
> speaking to your social committee "replacement" would serve to make
> sure your kind tradition continues.
>
> My social committee is headed up by two women, one wonderful, and one
> who is like Mommie Dearest--we have "had words" and she hasn't spoken
> to me in 20 years! I finally got the message and stopped greeting her
> with Good mornings.
>
> The wonderful social committee member makes sure everyone gets the same
> thing, so everything is equitable and people are treated equally.
>
> The Mommie Dearest one had a little *extra* celebration for another
> retiree in my specials department, bought a little *extra* gift,
had a
> luncheon for the retiree, but excluded me totally. I'm happy to say
> that didn't even hurt! Considering the source of who organized
that
> (Mommie Dearest), it was expected. She probably thinks it bothers me,
> but really, it doesn't. Everyone who I wanted at my personal
party in
> my home was invited, and attended.
>
> I understand how much your experience was such a slap in the face, but
> really, consider that your principal has a disability in this area. It
> doesn't make it right for you, but it may help you not take it so
> personally, even though he did address it as such.
>
> You are soooo blessed, having your thoughtful, caring son helping your
> pack, walking you out so you wouldn't walk out alone, and you sound
> like you have a wonderful and loving family.
>
> So the question on your post was What would you do?
>
> I would live well.
>
> I would let time pass and then reflect and see if I was in a place to
> forgive, or at least, to understand that the principal is not as
> skilled or gifted in personal matters as he should be.
>
> Peace. Jess
>

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