Always good to know there's another person on the same page, yes? Maybe all
of our posts will help Meg not be so sad. She worked with a "poopyhead" and
now she never had to work with him again (hopefully!).

Jess

On 6/28/09, ML wrote:
> Wish I'd read your reply before I posted my last one, we are obviously on
> the same page!
> Enjoy every day ahead of you, Jess! It's great in so many ways!!
>
> On 6/28/09, Jess in CA wrote:
>> (((((Meg))))), your best recourse is to do nothing but understand that
>> some people are doofuses, and your principal is one. He apparently
>> doesn't have any of the social graces that would have meant
>> acknowledging you at the assembly. He probably has no clue that he was
>> rude. Some people just don't "get it" even if you explain it to them
>> with audio- visual input and assistive technology! Remember, he had no
>> clue he embarrassed a colleague in front of others, so you can bet
>> that he'll be gauche and clueless for the remainder of his days.
>>
>> My principal AND the 3 assistant principals didn't even give me so much
>> as an email to congratulate me on my retirement--after 36 years--
> when
>> my last TWENTY-ONE YEARS were spent at that school. Oh well. Too bad
>> they have to work and I'm retired!!! However, it did make me pause and
>> say a puzzled "hmmmmmm" to myself.
>>
>> As for the social committee, I applaud you for making sure leaving
>> staff were treated equally and with love and respect. Perhaps
>> speaking to your social committee "replacement" would serve to make
>> sure your kind tradition continues.
>>
>> My social committee is headed up by two women, one wonderful, and one
>> who is like Mommie Dearest--we have "had words" and she hasn't spoken
>> to me in 20 years! I finally got the message and stopped greeting her
>> with Good mornings.
>>
>> The wonderful social committee member makes sure everyone gets the same
>> thing, so everything is equitable and people are treated equally.
>>
>> The Mommie Dearest one had a little *extra* celebration for another
>> retiree in my specials department, bought a little *extra* gift,
> had a
>> luncheon for the retiree, but excluded me totally. I'm happy to say
>> that didn't even hurt! Considering the source of who organized
> that
>> (Mommie Dearest), it was expected. She probably thinks it bothers me,
>> but really, it doesn't. Everyone who I wanted at my personal
> party in
>> my home was invited, and attended.
>>
>> I understand how much your experience was such a slap in the face, but
>> really, consider that your principal has a disability in this area. It
>> doesn't make it right for you, but it may help you not take it so
>> personally, even though he did address it as such.
>>
>> You are soooo blessed, having your thoughtful, caring son helping your
>> pack, walking you out so you wouldn't walk out alone, and you sound
>> like you have a wonderful and loving family.
>>
>> So the question on your post was What would you do?
>>
>> I would live well.
>>
>> I would let time pass and then reflect and see if I was in a place to
>> forgive, or at least, to understand that the principal is not as
>> skilled or gifted in personal matters as he should be.
>>
>> Peace. Jess
>>

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