On 6/29/09, Jeannie for Jess wrote:
> Jess,
> I decided to send you an email instead but accidently hit
> submit response. I have been writing thank yous. I
> requested no gifts but a lot of them brought gift cards
> anyway. The day was amazing. Stay tuned--your email will
> be coming.
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> must have been some party! (Jess w/msg) wrote:
>> I think you forgot to write the message! LOL ! Girl, we
>> are retired!!! It's
>> all good!!!
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>> Jess
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>> On 6/29/09, Jeannie To Jess wrote:
>>>> (((((Meg))))), your best recourse is to do nothing
>>>> but understand that some people are doofuses, and
>>>> your principal is one. He apparently doesn't have
>>>> any of the social graces that would have meant
>>>> acknowledging you at the assembly. He probably has
>>>> no clue that he was rude. Some people just don't
>>>> "get it" even if you explain it to them
>>>> with audio- visual input and assistive technology!
>>>> Remember, he had no clue he embarrassed a colleague
>>>> in front of others, so you can bet that he'll be
>>>> gauche and clueless for the remainder of his days.
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>>>> My principal AND the 3 assistant principals didn't
>>>> even give me so much as an email to congratulate me
>>>> on my retirement--after 36 years--
>>> when
>>>> my last TWENTY-ONE YEARS were spent at that school.
>>>> Oh well. Too bad they have to work and I'm
>>>> retired!!! However, it did make me pause and say a
>>>> puzzled "hmmmmmm" to myself.
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>>>> As for the social committee, I applaud you for
>>>> making sure leaving staff were treated equally and
>>>> with love and respect. Perhaps speaking to your
>>>> social committee "replacement" would
>>>> serve to make sure your kind tradition continues.
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>>>> My social committee is headed up by two women, one
>>>> wonderful, and one who is like Mommie Dearest--we
>>>> have "had words" and she hasn't spoken to
>>>> me in 20 years! I finally got the message and
>>>> stopped greeting her with Good mornings.
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>>>> The wonderful social committee member makes sure
>>>> everyone gets the same thing, so everything is
>>>> equitable and people are treated equally.
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>>>> The Mommie Dearest one had a little *extra*
>>>> celebration for another retiree in my specials
>>>> department, bought a little *extra* gift,
>>> had a
>>>> luncheon for the retiree, but excluded me totally.
>>>> I'm happy to say that didn't even hurt! Considering
>>>> the source of who organized
>>> that
>>>> (Mommie Dearest), it was expected. She probably
>>>> thinks it bothers me, but really, it doesn't.
>>>> Everyone who I wanted at my personal
>>> party in
>>>> my home was invited, and attended.
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>>>> I understand how much your experience was such a
>>>> slap in the face, but really, consider that your
>>>> principal has a disability in this area. It doesn't
>>>> make it right for you, but it may help you not take
>>>> it so personally, even though he did address it as
>>>> such.
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>>>> You are soooo blessed, having your thoughtful,
>>>> caring son helping your pack, walking you out so
>>>> you wouldn't walk out alone, and you sound like you
>>>> have a wonderful and loving family.
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>>>> So the question on your post was What would you do?
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>>>> I would live well.
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>>>> I would let time pass and then reflect and see if I
>>>> was in a place to forgive, or at least, to
>>>> understand that the principal is not as skilled or
>>>> gifted in personal matters as he should be.
>>>>
>>>> Peace. Jess
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